Chronicles of Elaine Enlightening

Archive for May, 2012

When God Closes One Door, He Opens Another, Part 1

Recently, with God’s help, the door to owning my franchise closed.  In, Part 1, I will share starting with purchasing the franchise.

In June of this year, it will be 2 years ago, that I chose to purchase the franchise, Get In Shape For Women.  I had a couple of life coaches I was working with at the time.  It appeared that a wellness, fitness program for women was right up my alley.  I loved working out and have never required accountability to keep my weight down or to be motivated to exercise. But, I did see women in my family, particularly my mom, struggle and thought this was my opportunity to make a difference for good. 

I uprooted from small town Missouri and moved to a suburb of KC.  The demographics were better and I had lived in this area after my husbands death, so I thought it was a great place to give back.  My son had to change school districts, but it was good timing as he was entering his 9th grade year in High School.

There was so much to do to get this franchise set up, that I did nothing else for 5 months. We opened on January 7th, 2011.  One of my daughters agreed to be the manager and she hired a trainer.  We were off to a pretty good start, but we didn’t break any records.

I suppose we went through the normal growing pains, but when things weren’t going according to plan.  My daughter decided she would move on and so she hired a new manager, which allowed her to go back home and do the things she was born to do, (she is a cosmetologist and a mom). Before my daughter left, I had already contemplated selling the franchise.  I could tell it wasn’t “my thing” after all.  All the details may be interesting, but are irrelevant to my overall story.  The big thing for me was that I was determined to make it work and so I kept trying to force things to happen.  Of course, this doesn’t really work, but I persisted, not wanting to be a quitter.  

The new manager was working out good, except that once she got going, it seemed that she had the same areas of struggle as my daughter.  I thought, that maybe I just would’t attract the right type of manager to take the franchise to the top 10 of the company, because of my own limitations.  This manager was like a daughter to me and we were really close.  (We still are.)  I honestly thought that it was me holding back the whole thing from working like it could, because I mustn’t be the right type of owner.  

Again, I looked in to the possibility of selling, but was once again encouraged that with minor tweaking of the mangers skills, we would be rising to the top soon.

In January of this year, 2012, one year after opening, something I read, inspired me to go back to Tapping.  So I got out Carol Looks book, “Attracting Abundance with EFT” and went through it again. (I had gotten into tapping many months before, because of Joe Vitale, but had stopped when I adopted my puppies.)   As I was Tapping through the book, I was really inspired to go and check out what it would take to become an EFT/Tapping Practitioner.  So, I did. I also, knew that if I wanted to move forward with any power, I required an EFT coach.   

I found and joined The Tapping Insiders Club.  Here I found Erika Awakening.  I did her videos and tapping scripts every day.  I had such amazing growth and totally resonated with her, that I went to TapSmarter.com and checked out her packages.  I signed up for the newsletter and Gold membership and bought The Personal Power Challenge video product of hers and proceeded to go through the 30 daily video’s. I was amazed at the transformation in my life.  I felt different and had a renewed sense of purpose.  It was clear right away that I was ready to hire Erika for coaching through her 15 Week Miracle Program and was quite confident that her HBR Program was and is the most powerful system on the planet.  I set out to become trained by her so that I could coach and mentor people with her method.  I was very excited about the prospects of a better future.  I had no idea how or when it would all come together, but I was ready to find out.  Stay tuned for Part 2, where I will begin to tell the miraculous story of selling the franchise and how God closed the door.  I will also be inserting my managers testimony as she started allowing me to mentor her with EFT, so that I could get practice and find out if EFT coaching, really resonated for me.  Her story is amazing and wonderful.  Its a beautiful testimony and confirmation that I had found my life purpose.  

 

 

 

Don’t Mess With My Plans

i used to be, and still am to an extent, an obsessive planner, so it’s true that I wasn’t happy about anything that messed with “my plans”. Even though, I may have alluded to this in previous articles, today I am addressing this issue from the standpoint of how it has affected my daughter.  I have three daughters, but this issue, came up in a tapping session with this one particular daughter. 

When my girls were growing up, we lived on a farm.  Now, my husbands family had a completely different way of operating and making schedules was not a part of it.  Basically, they worked from sun up to sun down, stopping only for church, bad weather, funerals and weddings.  Because the weather affected everything they did, I say, (they because my husband ran the farm with his mom and dad) had a better idea of going with the flow, than I did.

I chose to homeschool my children and so I made a schedule to ensure the outdoor and indoor chores got done, as well as their studies.  I cooked and baked our meals from scratch everyday.  So, I had plenty to manage. Planning and organizing is one of my strong suits.

I hated phone interruption, this was back before answering machines, and we were last to get on board with all technology as it didn’t fit into my “old fashioned mindset” back then.  I hated someone dropping by unannounced.  I hated it when the cows got out and we needed to go and help.  I hated being late to anything.  (This was not an issue for my husbands family, it seemed to me that they “planned” to be late because they were so consistent about it.)

Okay, you get the picture.  The topic my daughter brought for tapping, which was creating a conflict for her, ended up tying directly into my obsessive scheduling.  (She would need to share her part of the story here, I am not at liberty to divulge personal info.)  She recalled me getting angry about people not respecting my time. when they expecting me to drop everything for them.  

This turned out to be a wonderful way that we were able to confront these fears head on.  Here are the things I had learned and shared with her, while tapping.  

The fact is, if I had exemplified speaking my truth, to my daughter, in this situation, then she would have learned how to be empowered and honest.   by loving and openly expressing, to someone who I felt was not respecting my time, that I was busy and that it was necessary for them to leave, was an option I never considered.  I learned to put on the nice girl church face and act sweet, when deep down I was churning with anger.  Now, my children were not deceived as they had to listen to me grumble and complain.

When interruptions did happen, that required my attention, if I had exemplified a peaceful acceptance of the flow of life and the higher purpose of God’s plan, then my children would have learned another valuable lesson.  For one, how to live in the moment and the peace that comes from surrendering control of everything to God.

Just like now, I am always teaching in everything I think, say and do.  As a homeschool mom, I missed the opportunity to teach what is truly valuable.  Instead, I taught what I understood at the time.  By placing value on time and schedules and how they turned out was really limiting.   It’s very egocentric to put so much emphasis on “doing” instead of “being”. Schedules are fine and have a purpose to the extent that they help me spend my time efficiently.   I made time my “god”, when all that matters in NOW.  I had no clue how to be in the moment, because my mind was always in the past or future, insanely planning everything and forgetting about who I was “being” in each moment.

I am so grateful for the opportunity to begin the healing process, for my daughter and I, by seeing the mistakes of the past as opportunities to clear obstacles.   

God Plays Mean Tricks

I realize now, that I always thought God plays mean tricks on me. On the surface I was the good church going girl, who prayed and testified publicly of God’s goodness and mercy. I actually wanted to go to church every time the doors were open, even during my teenage years. I read my scripture religiously and was sure that I “loved God”.

It wasn’t until I started mentoring with, Erika Awakening, that I really was willing to dig deep and be totally honest with how I really felt about God. It is also clear, that because my dad was someone I couldn’t trust, then I projected that same lack of trust on God. Even though, my parents were divorced and I lived with my mom, I had plenty of experiences that validated my belief that “God Plays Mean Tricks” because dad played mean tricks. Like I mentioned in my article, dad wasn’t always there for me. He wasn’t faithful to my mom, either. Another aspect of my Dad that I hated was his love of teasing or playing tricks. He would take things from me, toys, candy etc.,and hide them from me. He would tickle me until I wet my pants. He would come up behind me and hit me behind the knees, so that I would fall down. He would tell me stuff that wasn’t true, just to see my excitement, only to dash my spirits. He demanded respect, but wasn’t willing to show respect. I learned really young not get spankings from my dad, because he used a belt. This made me fear him, not respect him. Although, I spent all of my adult life up until recent years believing that I did respect my dad (and mom) for spankings. I applied the same limiting belief on my 4 children (“Spare the rod and spoil the child.”). Thank God for, Marshall Rosenberg and his work entitled, Non-violent Communication, I no longer buy into such beliefs. Of course, dad had a good sense of humor and a fun side, but for the sake of this article I am focusing on my perceptions of my dad and how it affected my perception of God.

My siblings would have a different viewpoint than me, which proves that these are my perceptions and the ‘reality” that I chose. I have done a lot of work to release my anger towards my Dad based on these perceptions. I have already experienced beautiful healing and I don’t “blame” my dad or my mom. It just is what it is.

Even this morning, I reacted to something that happened, as though, the world was against me. As I caught myself playing the “victim”, I realized that I reacted with a good deal of cynicism, which was a familiar feeling. This lead me right back to the belief that “God Plays Mean Tricks” on me. I chose to write this article in hopes of once and for all dispelling this myth in my mind that “God Plays Mean Tricks” on me. I spent some time EFT/Tapping on this feeling. I am ready to embrace the truth about my relationship with God and to stop projecting these illusions from the past on to my future.

“Glory to God in the highest, and to you because He has so willed it. Ask and it shall be given you, because it has already been given. Ask for light and learn that you are light. If you want understanding and enlightenment you will learn it, because your decision to learn it is the decision to listen to the Teacher Who knows of light, and can therefore teach it to you. There is no limit on your learning because there is no limit on your mind. There is no limit on His teaching because He was created to teach. Understanding His function perfectly He fulfills it perfectly, because that is His joy and yours.” The Course In Miracles