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When God Closes One Door, He Opens Another, Part 1

Recently, with God’s help, the door to owning my franchise closed.  In, Part 1, I will share starting with purchasing the franchise.

In June of this year, it will be 2 years ago, that I chose to purchase the franchise, Get In Shape For Women.  I had a couple of life coaches I was working with at the time.  It appeared that a wellness, fitness program for women was right up my alley.  I loved working out and have never required accountability to keep my weight down or to be motivated to exercise. But, I did see women in my family, particularly my mom, struggle and thought this was my opportunity to make a difference for good. 

I uprooted from small town Missouri and moved to a suburb of KC.  The demographics were better and I had lived in this area after my husbands death, so I thought it was a great place to give back.  My son had to change school districts, but it was good timing as he was entering his 9th grade year in High School.

There was so much to do to get this franchise set up, that I did nothing else for 5 months. We opened on January 7th, 2011.  One of my daughters agreed to be the manager and she hired a trainer.  We were off to a pretty good start, but we didn’t break any records.

I suppose we went through the normal growing pains, but when things weren’t going according to plan.  My daughter decided she would move on and so she hired a new manager, which allowed her to go back home and do the things she was born to do, (she is a cosmetologist and a mom). Before my daughter left, I had already contemplated selling the franchise.  I could tell it wasn’t “my thing” after all.  All the details may be interesting, but are irrelevant to my overall story.  The big thing for me was that I was determined to make it work and so I kept trying to force things to happen.  Of course, this doesn’t really work, but I persisted, not wanting to be a quitter.  

The new manager was working out good, except that once she got going, it seemed that she had the same areas of struggle as my daughter.  I thought, that maybe I just would’t attract the right type of manager to take the franchise to the top 10 of the company, because of my own limitations.  This manager was like a daughter to me and we were really close.  (We still are.)  I honestly thought that it was me holding back the whole thing from working like it could, because I mustn’t be the right type of owner.  

Again, I looked in to the possibility of selling, but was once again encouraged that with minor tweaking of the mangers skills, we would be rising to the top soon.

In January of this year, 2012, one year after opening, something I read, inspired me to go back to Tapping.  So I got out Carol Looks book, “Attracting Abundance with EFT” and went through it again. (I had gotten into tapping many months before, because of Joe Vitale, but had stopped when I adopted my puppies.)   As I was Tapping through the book, I was really inspired to go and check out what it would take to become an EFT/Tapping Practitioner.  So, I did. I also, knew that if I wanted to move forward with any power, I required an EFT coach.   

I found and joined The Tapping Insiders Club.  Here I found Erika Awakening.  I did her videos and tapping scripts every day.  I had such amazing growth and totally resonated with her, that I went to TapSmarter.com and checked out her packages.  I signed up for the newsletter and Gold membership and bought The Personal Power Challenge video product of hers and proceeded to go through the 30 daily video’s. I was amazed at the transformation in my life.  I felt different and had a renewed sense of purpose.  It was clear right away that I was ready to hire Erika for coaching through her 15 Week Miracle Program and was quite confident that her HBR Program was and is the most powerful system on the planet.  I set out to become trained by her so that I could coach and mentor people with her method.  I was very excited about the prospects of a better future.  I had no idea how or when it would all come together, but I was ready to find out.  Stay tuned for Part 2, where I will begin to tell the miraculous story of selling the franchise and how God closed the door.  I will also be inserting my managers testimony as she started allowing me to mentor her with EFT, so that I could get practice and find out if EFT coaching, really resonated for me.  Her story is amazing and wonderful.  Its a beautiful testimony and confirmation that I had found my life purpose.  

 

 

 

Don’t Mess With My Plans

i used to be, and still am to an extent, an obsessive planner, so it’s true that I wasn’t happy about anything that messed with “my plans”. Even though, I may have alluded to this in previous articles, today I am addressing this issue from the standpoint of how it has affected my daughter.  I have three daughters, but this issue, came up in a tapping session with this one particular daughter. 

When my girls were growing up, we lived on a farm.  Now, my husbands family had a completely different way of operating and making schedules was not a part of it.  Basically, they worked from sun up to sun down, stopping only for church, bad weather, funerals and weddings.  Because the weather affected everything they did, I say, (they because my husband ran the farm with his mom and dad) had a better idea of going with the flow, than I did.

I chose to homeschool my children and so I made a schedule to ensure the outdoor and indoor chores got done, as well as their studies.  I cooked and baked our meals from scratch everyday.  So, I had plenty to manage. Planning and organizing is one of my strong suits.

I hated phone interruption, this was back before answering machines, and we were last to get on board with all technology as it didn’t fit into my “old fashioned mindset” back then.  I hated someone dropping by unannounced.  I hated it when the cows got out and we needed to go and help.  I hated being late to anything.  (This was not an issue for my husbands family, it seemed to me that they “planned” to be late because they were so consistent about it.)

Okay, you get the picture.  The topic my daughter brought for tapping, which was creating a conflict for her, ended up tying directly into my obsessive scheduling.  (She would need to share her part of the story here, I am not at liberty to divulge personal info.)  She recalled me getting angry about people not respecting my time. when they expecting me to drop everything for them.  

This turned out to be a wonderful way that we were able to confront these fears head on.  Here are the things I had learned and shared with her, while tapping.  

The fact is, if I had exemplified speaking my truth, to my daughter, in this situation, then she would have learned how to be empowered and honest.   by loving and openly expressing, to someone who I felt was not respecting my time, that I was busy and that it was necessary for them to leave, was an option I never considered.  I learned to put on the nice girl church face and act sweet, when deep down I was churning with anger.  Now, my children were not deceived as they had to listen to me grumble and complain.

When interruptions did happen, that required my attention, if I had exemplified a peaceful acceptance of the flow of life and the higher purpose of God’s plan, then my children would have learned another valuable lesson.  For one, how to live in the moment and the peace that comes from surrendering control of everything to God.

Just like now, I am always teaching in everything I think, say and do.  As a homeschool mom, I missed the opportunity to teach what is truly valuable.  Instead, I taught what I understood at the time.  By placing value on time and schedules and how they turned out was really limiting.   It’s very egocentric to put so much emphasis on “doing” instead of “being”. Schedules are fine and have a purpose to the extent that they help me spend my time efficiently.   I made time my “god”, when all that matters in NOW.  I had no clue how to be in the moment, because my mind was always in the past or future, insanely planning everything and forgetting about who I was “being” in each moment.

I am so grateful for the opportunity to begin the healing process, for my daughter and I, by seeing the mistakes of the past as opportunities to clear obstacles.   

God Plays Mean Tricks

I realize now, that I always thought God plays mean tricks on me. On the surface I was the good church going girl, who prayed and testified publicly of God’s goodness and mercy. I actually wanted to go to church every time the doors were open, even during my teenage years. I read my scripture religiously and was sure that I “loved God”.

It wasn’t until I started mentoring with, Erika Awakening, that I really was willing to dig deep and be totally honest with how I really felt about God. It is also clear, that because my dad was someone I couldn’t trust, then I projected that same lack of trust on God. Even though, my parents were divorced and I lived with my mom, I had plenty of experiences that validated my belief that “God Plays Mean Tricks” because dad played mean tricks. Like I mentioned in my article, dad wasn’t always there for me. He wasn’t faithful to my mom, either. Another aspect of my Dad that I hated was his love of teasing or playing tricks. He would take things from me, toys, candy etc.,and hide them from me. He would tickle me until I wet my pants. He would come up behind me and hit me behind the knees, so that I would fall down. He would tell me stuff that wasn’t true, just to see my excitement, only to dash my spirits. He demanded respect, but wasn’t willing to show respect. I learned really young not get spankings from my dad, because he used a belt. This made me fear him, not respect him. Although, I spent all of my adult life up until recent years believing that I did respect my dad (and mom) for spankings. I applied the same limiting belief on my 4 children (“Spare the rod and spoil the child.”). Thank God for, Marshall Rosenberg and his work entitled, Non-violent Communication, I no longer buy into such beliefs. Of course, dad had a good sense of humor and a fun side, but for the sake of this article I am focusing on my perceptions of my dad and how it affected my perception of God.

My siblings would have a different viewpoint than me, which proves that these are my perceptions and the ‘reality” that I chose. I have done a lot of work to release my anger towards my Dad based on these perceptions. I have already experienced beautiful healing and I don’t “blame” my dad or my mom. It just is what it is.

Even this morning, I reacted to something that happened, as though, the world was against me. As I caught myself playing the “victim”, I realized that I reacted with a good deal of cynicism, which was a familiar feeling. This lead me right back to the belief that “God Plays Mean Tricks” on me. I chose to write this article in hopes of once and for all dispelling this myth in my mind that “God Plays Mean Tricks” on me. I spent some time EFT/Tapping on this feeling. I am ready to embrace the truth about my relationship with God and to stop projecting these illusions from the past on to my future.

“Glory to God in the highest, and to you because He has so willed it. Ask and it shall be given you, because it has already been given. Ask for light and learn that you are light. If you want understanding and enlightenment you will learn it, because your decision to learn it is the decision to listen to the Teacher Who knows of light, and can therefore teach it to you. There is no limit on your learning because there is no limit on your mind. There is no limit on His teaching because He was created to teach. Understanding His function perfectly He fulfills it perfectly, because that is His joy and yours.” The Course In Miracles

I am Angry at Nothing

How can I be angry at nothing? “I am upset because I see what is not there.” A Course In Miracles

For as long as I can remember, one of my biggest issues (better known as judgements based on persceptions) has been that I hate interruptions in my schedule. Whether the puppies make an untimely mess in their kennel or I lose something important down in a crevice inside the car, or misplace something important to me, need a nap, you name it, if it wasn’t in the plans, then I could be triggered and respond angrily. I might throw something down, scream, yell, stomp, grit my teeth, lecture, or clam up. I really hate it when I don’t get done what I want to. I notice how easily I can sabotage my results. At least, if I don’t want to see myself as a victim, (and I don’t), then I must be willing to take 100% responsibility for my life. All of the things that are coming up to sabotage my day are my creation.

The truth is, that I will get done exactly what I want to get done. Period!! No exceptions. These are all the illusions I created because I choose to be stuck in the past. You may wonder why I would purposefully sabotage my results. The truth is, it’s subconscious at first. Becoming aware is an important step, but I am still struggling to release my fear of change. A part of me still loves all the drama and if I let go of the past, then I will have peace instead of drama and that can be uncomfortable. This is what “getting of my comfort zone” is all about. I have been a Drama Queen who specializes in making “something out of nothing”. It’s “nothing” because it only exists from my perspective. It’s nothing because it only has the meaning I give it.

I have become aware of my anger at God. I thought I was always the good girl who exhibited so much faith and trust in God. Nada! Nope, the truth is, I have excluded God most of my life, because I didn’t trust him to care for me. I had a lot of experiences as a child that told me I couldn’t trust my parents to be there for me, so how could I trust God. These too, were my illusions though, based on perspective. I am learning from my coach and mentor, Erika Awakening, that when I embrace anger, you can read my last article here, , I can then turn it into gold. Anger is a powerful force that has a purpose when used appropriately.

Because I had more anger come up today, I went and tapped on “Anger Turned to Gold”, a bonus video in .because I understand how important it is to be really honest with myself about my anger in order to turn in into gold. It’s a significant part of becoming a magnet for abundance in every area of my life.

Are you afraid to look at all the “nothing” you are angry at? Nothing will ever change until you do.

Embracing Anger

How can you embrace anger? Especially if you were raised like me and taught that expressing it is wrong. It was the very people who taught me this belief that were expressing so much anger. Now I realize that it’s the guilt we become addicted to experiencing as a result of expressing our anger. Of course, when we express anger in ways that are demeaning and unhealthy then guilt is a common response. I was even taught that guilt is necessary, so we have a need to go to the cross to be saved.

I am going to submit to you that the guilt is not necessary, especially if we learn to honor our anger in productive ways. Tapping on anger is an incredible way to release anger that doesn’t hurt anyone. You can beat a pillow with a baseball bat and have at least a partial release. It’s what you do with the anger and whether you are willing to forgive and move on that matters. Can you see how addressing the anger and not suppressing it is a way embrace it? Nobody feels better after suppressing anger. Most people have been suppressing anger their whole lives. I know I did. Were you ever punished for responding in anger to a parental demand? I know I have. It’s how we get so good at hiding our true feelings.

What you embrace has no power over you, is something I learned form my mentor, Erika Awakening
This concept and the application of it has changed my whole life for the better. Now I feel authentic love for those who I perceived have hurt me. It’s a wonderful feeling to be free. Now anger doesn’t have to run my life.

What is Tapping?

Tap, taps and tapping are terms used by EFT (Energy Freedom Technique) Practitioners.  You know, how a gardener plants?  Well, an EFT Practitioner TAPS.  By tapping on points on the body you can literally free up, or release negative energetic emotional patterns that are stuck in the cellular memory.  EFT is a holistic approach based on the same principles as Acupuncture.  EFT is more involved than just the tapping aspect.  To learn more about the basic techniques I recommend getting the FREE ebook from  www.thrivingnow.com/tapping.  You will need to sign up for it with you name and email, but it will be worth it to get the basic understanding of how EFT works.  You can immediately put it into practice in your life.  Even with no experience with tapping, you will likely see a difference right away.  There are tapping scripts in this email to get you started.  This is the website I went to when I stared tapping.  The emails you receive from signing up have tapping scripts, too.  This is a good place for you to start until I have my own tapping introduction video. 

I tapped by myself until I could sense that I required a coach to really make progress in my life.  It was the best decision I have ever made.  Tapping on the body alone does free up energy and help you to tune into your body. Tapping and using a powerful language founded in a Holistic Approach speeds up the process of freeing the emotional energy in a big way.  This is what I do with my practice.  

A book that I have read and recommend for easy reading on the subject Discover the Power of Meridian Tapping, A Revolutionary Method for Stress-Free Living by Patricia Carrington, Ph D.  This is a companion to the movie The Tapping Solution Created and produced by Nicolas Ortner.  I have the movie, too, and found it to be very helpful.  

I, also, went through the book, Attracting Abundance with EFT, by Carol Look, EFT Master at least 3 times.  I found it interesting and useful to see the negative patterns in my life.  It is literally filled with tapping scripts.   Carol’s book and some of her audio programs that I purchased inspired me to pursue EFT as a Practitioner.  

When you are ready to make serious changes in your life, contact me at elaineenligtening@gmail.com, for private coaching, then you will find out how powerful it is to have customized tapping sessions.  I am still in the process of setting up my website, but I am in a position to coach.  Read the testimonials to see how I can help you, too.

 

Dog Whisperer in Training

I love watching the Dog Whisperer and Ceasar has been my role model for about everything I have done with my puppies thus far.  I have trained them some basic commands starting from the beginning, 7 and 9 weeks old, my main objective has been to have balanced dogs.  Of course, this really comes from me being balanced, so I knew this was going to be a big challenge.

After writing about “My Special Relationships” earlier this week, I saw a correlation between what I have learned about this topic in The Course In Miracles and my relationship with my puppies.  I have written in earlier posts about the negative conditioning I received from my parents about animals in general, but dogs in particular, so I won’t repeat all of those limiting beliefs again.

“For the special relationship is an attempt to re-enact the past and change it…….Do not underestimate the intensity of the ego’s drive for vengeance on the past. It is completely savage and completely insane.”   A Course In Miracles

My past says that dogs are disposable and should get the scraps, should remain outside where they belong.  You don’t spend money on dogs for anything.   As I was tapping on some frustration I had experienced regarding my puppies, it was clear that I was resentful towards them because I have spent money on the healthiest food,  plush beds, groomers, healthy treats, hoodies and coats for winter, doggie toys, soft travel carriers, etc.   I have been carrying guilt from the past, (subconsciously) because I am going against my parents wishes.  Then when I feel the puppies aren’t listening to me (yes, they are teenagers and one day one puppy acts like I never taught them anything and the next day its the other, which is why Ceasar says it takes a lot of patience to raise puppies.) I get irritable and my tone gets harsh.  When that happens I am imbalanced.  Dogs don’t follow unbalanced leaders.  (People do, and I have done plenty of that in the past, too.)

It feels like I am crazy, “insane”, when I write about this, which is why I keep tapping on the frustration when it comes up, I din’t understand why I have it and I didn’t think I wanted the frustration.  The only way to break free from all this is to get really honest and admit that subconsciously I do want it, the frustration I mean.  How I know this is a fact is because, if I stopped being frustrated then there wouldn’t be anything to validate all of my ego beliefs from the past about dogs.  So I keep recreating the circumstances to support my illusions.    It’s taken a lot of persistent tapping to uncover this, but today I felt the biggest shift ever happen on this topic.  So I know I uncovered something big from my shadow self.

Another big aspect that I have been stumbling over again and again has been the fact that my puppies mirror me.  I have written about this before and I have studied the Dog Whisperer enough to know that it is a fact, but there was a part of me that still refused to accept the shadow side.   I have watched Ceasar over and over again, go in and transform a persistent issue with a dog in minutes.  One big key is that he only sees the dog in the present, with no past history of anything negative at all.

“For the special relationship is an attempt to re-enact the past and change it…….Do not underestimate the intensity of the ego’s drive for vengeance on the past. It is completely savage and completely insane.”   A Course In Miracles

I keep wanting to blame the fact that the puppies arrived to my home with these issues, Baron, my male puppy, is fearful and Lady, my female puppy is hyper, instead of taking full responsibility for having created this in my life.  I really didn’t have any experience when choosing balanced puppies and reading Ceasar’s book was not enough for me, but no mistake, we got the puppies we were meant to have.  As I have said in earlier posts, I was in this mode of facing all my fears, when I got the puppies.  I knew I had a lot of hangups to overcome and felt the best way to do that was to jump in and just do it.  I am not one to get anything by just reading or by watching someone do it, I know I have to get in there and do it to get it.

Today, I choose to see my puppies in the light of now and not hold over them the past.  I tapped and prayed on the fact that, I too, am afraid of people and new situations just like Baron.  So while out walking today, instead of feeling judgmental of him for that, I owned it in myself, because it is a fact, even if it is the part I want to hide.  I hide it under smiles and negative body language and politeness, you know, just being the nice girl.  Ugh!!  How fake and phony I can be.  It’s time to face that fear and put it to rest.  Baron loves other dogs, though, especially the big ones.  A part of me loves dogs, especially big ones.

I am also, just like Lady,  when I get overly excited about people and new situations.  I have had some relationships where I opened myself up to quickly and didn’t pay any attention to the red flags, instead I just blindly trusted that this person would rescue me and take care of me.  Lady is scared of most dogs and will try to jump in the arms of the nearest human being to get away from the dogs.  She doesn’t ever come to me, because first of all she knows that I will make her sit and be calm before I pick her up at anytime, second of all she knows I won’t rescue her from other dogs.  I will protect her by standing between her and another dog if I felt she was threatened, but so far that has never happened.  There is a part of me that is afraid of dogs, too.  Although, as I mentioned this in an earlier post, I have found considerable relief from having tapped on this issue.  There is a Chow in our neighborhood that is really aggressive and the owners put the dog outside off leash to roam.  I encountered him once will taking Baron for a bike ride and the Chow started chasing Baron, I turned and said “Hey” to him with all the assertiveness I could muster and he turned and ran off.  Baron’s little legs just couldn’t have out ran him and running in fear is never a solution.  So, now when I walk the dogs, I am on the alert, but not fearful about running in to him.

I know that I have broke free from some real bondage today.  I thank God for this big shift from fear.  I know longer feel the need to see my puppies in relation to their past and have let go of the need to try and change them.  Acceptance is the key and letting go of the past baggage (illusions).  This a big lesson that will carry over into all areas of my life.  I knew I was supposed to get puppies and I am so glad I did.  They are wonderful companions and will only get better.  The puppies will be able to love and respect me as a balanced leader.  Oh, I may stumble here and there, but now I have a much better awareness and I will notice the negative energy before it is manifested, because I have a new understanding.

I may not be a Dog Whisperer yet, but I am 1 shift closer to it.