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Dog Whisperer in Training

I love watching the Dog Whisperer and Ceasar has been my role model for about everything I have done with my puppies thus far.  I have trained them some basic commands starting from the beginning, 7 and 9 weeks old, my main objective has been to have balanced dogs.  Of course, this really comes from me being balanced, so I knew this was going to be a big challenge.

After writing about “My Special Relationships” earlier this week, I saw a correlation between what I have learned about this topic in The Course In Miracles and my relationship with my puppies.  I have written in earlier posts about the negative conditioning I received from my parents about animals in general, but dogs in particular, so I won’t repeat all of those limiting beliefs again.

“For the special relationship is an attempt to re-enact the past and change it…….Do not underestimate the intensity of the ego’s drive for vengeance on the past. It is completely savage and completely insane.”   A Course In Miracles

My past says that dogs are disposable and should get the scraps, should remain outside where they belong.  You don’t spend money on dogs for anything.   As I was tapping on some frustration I had experienced regarding my puppies, it was clear that I was resentful towards them because I have spent money on the healthiest food,  plush beds, groomers, healthy treats, hoodies and coats for winter, doggie toys, soft travel carriers, etc.   I have been carrying guilt from the past, (subconsciously) because I am going against my parents wishes.  Then when I feel the puppies aren’t listening to me (yes, they are teenagers and one day one puppy acts like I never taught them anything and the next day its the other, which is why Ceasar says it takes a lot of patience to raise puppies.) I get irritable and my tone gets harsh.  When that happens I am imbalanced.  Dogs don’t follow unbalanced leaders.  (People do, and I have done plenty of that in the past, too.)

It feels like I am crazy, “insane”, when I write about this, which is why I keep tapping on the frustration when it comes up, I din’t understand why I have it and I didn’t think I wanted the frustration.  The only way to break free from all this is to get really honest and admit that subconsciously I do want it, the frustration I mean.  How I know this is a fact is because, if I stopped being frustrated then there wouldn’t be anything to validate all of my ego beliefs from the past about dogs.  So I keep recreating the circumstances to support my illusions.    It’s taken a lot of persistent tapping to uncover this, but today I felt the biggest shift ever happen on this topic.  So I know I uncovered something big from my shadow self.

Another big aspect that I have been stumbling over again and again has been the fact that my puppies mirror me.  I have written about this before and I have studied the Dog Whisperer enough to know that it is a fact, but there was a part of me that still refused to accept the shadow side.   I have watched Ceasar over and over again, go in and transform a persistent issue with a dog in minutes.  One big key is that he only sees the dog in the present, with no past history of anything negative at all.

“For the special relationship is an attempt to re-enact the past and change it…….Do not underestimate the intensity of the ego’s drive for vengeance on the past. It is completely savage and completely insane.”   A Course In Miracles

I keep wanting to blame the fact that the puppies arrived to my home with these issues, Baron, my male puppy, is fearful and Lady, my female puppy is hyper, instead of taking full responsibility for having created this in my life.  I really didn’t have any experience when choosing balanced puppies and reading Ceasar’s book was not enough for me, but no mistake, we got the puppies we were meant to have.  As I have said in earlier posts, I was in this mode of facing all my fears, when I got the puppies.  I knew I had a lot of hangups to overcome and felt the best way to do that was to jump in and just do it.  I am not one to get anything by just reading or by watching someone do it, I know I have to get in there and do it to get it.

Today, I choose to see my puppies in the light of now and not hold over them the past.  I tapped and prayed on the fact that, I too, am afraid of people and new situations just like Baron.  So while out walking today, instead of feeling judgmental of him for that, I owned it in myself, because it is a fact, even if it is the part I want to hide.  I hide it under smiles and negative body language and politeness, you know, just being the nice girl.  Ugh!!  How fake and phony I can be.  It’s time to face that fear and put it to rest.  Baron loves other dogs, though, especially the big ones.  A part of me loves dogs, especially big ones.

I am also, just like Lady,  when I get overly excited about people and new situations.  I have had some relationships where I opened myself up to quickly and didn’t pay any attention to the red flags, instead I just blindly trusted that this person would rescue me and take care of me.  Lady is scared of most dogs and will try to jump in the arms of the nearest human being to get away from the dogs.  She doesn’t ever come to me, because first of all she knows that I will make her sit and be calm before I pick her up at anytime, second of all she knows I won’t rescue her from other dogs.  I will protect her by standing between her and another dog if I felt she was threatened, but so far that has never happened.  There is a part of me that is afraid of dogs, too.  Although, as I mentioned this in an earlier post, I have found considerable relief from having tapped on this issue.  There is a Chow in our neighborhood that is really aggressive and the owners put the dog outside off leash to roam.  I encountered him once will taking Baron for a bike ride and the Chow started chasing Baron, I turned and said “Hey” to him with all the assertiveness I could muster and he turned and ran off.  Baron’s little legs just couldn’t have out ran him and running in fear is never a solution.  So, now when I walk the dogs, I am on the alert, but not fearful about running in to him.

I know that I have broke free from some real bondage today.  I thank God for this big shift from fear.  I know longer feel the need to see my puppies in relation to their past and have let go of the need to try and change them.  Acceptance is the key and letting go of the past baggage (illusions).  This a big lesson that will carry over into all areas of my life.  I knew I was supposed to get puppies and I am so glad I did.  They are wonderful companions and will only get better.  The puppies will be able to love and respect me as a balanced leader.  Oh, I may stumble here and there, but now I have a much better awareness and I will notice the negative energy before it is manifested, because I have a new understanding.

I may not be a Dog Whisperer yet, but I am 1 shift closer to it.